Move On..!!

I'm fiercely independent, most of those close to me knows that. It's extremely hard for me to "depend" and or "seek" from others; couple that with my inability to seek happiness from others, and love can seem impossible. I'll admit it, I'm a very hard person to get close too, but this isn't something I pride myself on

To have someone love me despite my difficult nature, is well blissful! My love life is in the best state it's been, in well many years. Sad, I know -- but loads has happened to me in the past years, life altering events, the loss of loved ones, dropping some friends, gaining new friends, etc

I'm in a much better place, on every level. A year ago, I would've laughed in the face of those who told me the level of bliss I'm at was possible, especially after losing my -- but time does heal. I'm now a firm believer in that

What's not blissful, is dealing with friends who seem to love their men, despite their cheating ways. I guess because I've been to hell and back, my tolerance is low for meaningless relationships

I know every person's tolerance for pain is different, I know we all love differently, BUT there is no excuse to put your life in danger, by loving someone who sleeps around on you, who causes you stress, and who doesn't love you back. Reciprocation must happen in every relationship, or there will be unbalance

I know I'm not the only one who feels like this, or has the friend(s) who call them with their sad relationship woes. You know the ones who stay in the relationship, despite the mountain of signs that's telling them to run, so you avoid their phone calls, because you know it's just another crying session

Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we give our love to those who don't deserve it, and put our lives in jeopardy in the process? Yes, I've been in few suck relationship, but I've never stood for cheating, and I can say this with firm conviction, in todays world if you cheat on me -- it's over. I'll cry, it will hurt, but with time I'll get over it. I'm not risking my life by staying with someone who cheats

Life is too short, and beautiful for that kind of stress, and I'm not speaking from a place of not knowing -- I've been there done that, well sans the cheating. If you see it, and he's making you cry, causing you stress, then you don't need him. Yes we all like and love companionship, yes it's essential in the long run, but life is fleeting, and there is no possible way you can truly live, in a toxic relationship. Now, while my words are geared towards women, this applies to men too, because the fact remains women are no more equipped for monogamous relationships, than men are. Women fall prey to cheating, and cause much havoc too

Toxic relationships need to be banished, we all need to seek very boring love lives, and boring isn't always bad. Leave the high drama for teenagers, movies, books, and ignorant men and women who didn't get enough hugs in life

As the old saying goes, love starts with love of self first. The more you love yourself, the less you'll allow yourself to get into toxic relationships. We've all been there in some way, shape, or form. It could be a toxic friendship, etc -- whatever it is, it's a waste of time you can't get back

It seems everyones in a rush to be "happy" or "be in" something, and I say what's the rush? Get to know yourself, get happy with you -- and trust me the universe will open a world to you, that you may have never dreamed possible. But it all starts with us people, every single step