Is My Relationship Worth Saving?

Problems arise in every relationship. And many couples stay in a bad relationship for their children or due to religious, financial, and/or emotional concerns (i.e., fear of being alone). But, at some point, many couples have to decide if they should try to work things out or call it quits. This is never an easy decision to make. And while no one can tell you what to do when trying to make such an important decision, maybe we should consider questions ourselves which may help us put our relationship into perspective.

Something to Consider:

• If you had to create a short list of people you could spend the day with, would your partner be on that list? Do you genuinely enjoy each other's company? Do you laugh when you’re together?
• Do you have the same values, goals and interests? Do you and your partner enjoy doing the same things? Do the two of you want the same things out of life?
• Do you express a lot of affection and appreciation for each other? Or is there mostly indifference, negativity and hostility in your relationship?
• Does your partner make you feel understood? Does your partner try to see your point of view? When discussing things, does your partner listen to what you have to say?
• Is your relationship based on fairness? Does your partner see you as an equal? Do you feel you are treated with respect? Or do you feel used, exploited, or taken for granted?
• Do you feel that your partner will be there for you in times of need? Can you count on your spouse for help when the going gets tough?
• Do you feel comfortable sharing your innermost thoughts with your partner? How easy is it for you to talk to your partner about sensitive issues?
• When you disagree with each other, do the two of you try to resolve your differences? Or is there a lot of hostility, disregard and contempt being expressed?